No! You don’t want to vent is the short answer. Here’s the not-so-short answer. Suppose you paid for a service and you were not happy about what was delivered. It’s happened to the best of us.
Now, I’m going to steer away from “the reason” that you feel the need to vent, it’s actually irrelevant. Yeah, yeah, give me a chance to explain. Instead of venting to someone else about your bad experience, or worse, going on a social media rant, try the following exercise in this Patty-Ism.
So, venting releases steam. You do not want to get into the steam production business, it will not serve you well at all. You’ll be compounding the problem instead of resolving it. Misery loves company is a cheap motel that you do not want to frequent. If someone sent you an invitation to join a ‘misery club’, would you accept it? (Author side note: Please say “no” , you are reading a positivity blog.) Why doesn’t anyone ever say happiness loves company? or pleasure loves company? HMMMM
With temptation everywhere in the form of online reviews, we’re almost encouraged to complain and vent. Warning: steam burns.
Here’s what happens to you when you build steam. You are officially in a 100% negative mind set…aka…you’re allowing your mental garbage can to dump all over you. Garbage clean up takes time and energy. (Side note: How important is YOUR time? ..that’s another blog, another day.)
Try to make the decision not to build steam. In the case of a bad vendor experience, it’s ok to contact them and calmly explain that the service was not as expected or promised. P.S. at this point you’re probably speaking with someone who is paid to let you rant. If a resolution is offered, great! If nothing is offered and they don’t care about your complaint, great! I know, you’re thinking “does this woman want me to be a doormat?”… not at all. I want you to protect your mind at all costs, and choose to forgive the bad service, learn from the experience, and move on.
This long story about steam and venting is actually a lesson in forgiveness and gratitude. The next time you feel the urge (to exercise an acquired habit), to ‘vent’, instead try the following: Do not react and allow negative emotions in, tell yourself STOP, hit the pause button..etc.. It is important that you immediately hit pause before you react. You can now choose to think and respond, calmly. If you have a short fuse currently, stop long enough to prevent emotion from taking over your mouth. Emotion is steam laced with cyanide.
Halting this acquired habit before you ‘make steam’ will allow you to form a new habit of forgiveness and gratitude.
Pro-Tip: During “pause”, think of 3 things that you are currently grateful for. Actually feel the gratitude, smile!
Patty-Ism: Politely decline all invitations to join the Misery Club!